Money? Status? Success? A Prosperous Business? A Loving Relationship?
Now let me ask you a super blunt question: Why don't you have it yet?
A few months ago I attended a seminar. One of the speakers began his presentation with what I initially considered a very confrontational remark. He paused very dramatically and bellowed... "What lies do you keep telling yourself?" Although the room fell deaf silent, we all knew that his question truly touched a nerve. That question has echoed in the hollows of my mind ever since.
"What lies do you keep telling yourself?"
"You're calling me a liar?" "All the lies?" "How much time do you have?" "That's not a lie, that's the truth!" The responses that were firing up to that question were racing through my mind at the speed of light.
In Life We Can Have Results or Reasons. If you are not getting the results you want, your reasons are the lies that you keep telling yourself. You can try to argue with that statement but its kind of like wrestling with the wind, it will keep you real busy but you really won't get anywhere. Lies create the idea that we are powerless to make things any different than the way they are.
I hate to admit it but we are all liars. We love our reasons and will go to extreme lengths to hold onto them. After all, our reasons are our stories, which define us. Those experiences "made us who we are today!" It's just the way things are........
Results or reasons. Which do you have more of? If you answered reasons, its time to analyze the lies. I speak from experience. I spent the first thirty years of my life studying what I should believe in. Studied all the great reasons. Read all the great philosophers, not once did anybody ask me....."What is it that you want to experience with all these ideas?" So I got a little top heavy on reasons and a little short on results.
The problem with having so many reasons is that eventually these reasons create a logic of limitations. They are like a virus that creates "a story" that runs in the background of your minds hard drive. Whenever we see something that we want to create, the first thing we bump into is these beliefs (reasons) that have shaped our experience thus far. And so the battle ensues. Possibilities vs. Limitations.
The Grudge Match.
Its like a counterproductive stealth message has been implanted in your mind, "You never seem to really win at anything, so don't expect much here!" This message brought to you by your sponsor, "limiting lives is what we do!"
We all search for meaning in life. However sometimes life is meaningless. It just "is." The critical moments that shape our lives are when we define our experience and declare...."what this means is (fill in the blank)." If the statement that we make at this crucial moment, in filling in the blank, even mildly dis empowers us, we empower the logic of limitations to control our perspective from that moment forward.
Don't believe me? Here are some famous examples for you to try on for size:
Oprah Winfrey was fired from one of her first jobs as a television reporter and told that "She wasn't fit for TV." How do you think she defined that moment? After his first performance on the Grand Ole Opry, Elvis Presley was banned from returning and told, "You ain't going nowhere son!" At that crucial moment do you think the King of Rock created a message of possibility or limitation?
Life just is. Sometimes when we look for meaning we might want to remember that.
What's your story?
Have you ever been fired, rejected, heartbroken, mistreated, insulted? How did you define the moment? I only ask, because that agreement has shaped your reality. Be Careful What You Agree With! The Results Can Be Lethal.
Now what did you say you really wanted in your life?
Listen carefully and you'll hear those reasons whispering their logic of limitations! It's no big deal if you hear the "stories" from time to time. The question is what are you going to do about it?